Recently a friend of mine who is a pastor has been under “attack” by some theologians in the Reformed camp (of which I am a part). These theologians have been very vocal in their criticism. One in particular posted a blog post with a bunch of snide and silly questions (basically insults) and when called on it, wrote another blog post defending himself.
Those against my friend appear to be very angry. I don’t know if they are or aren’t but it appears so from the outside looking in. If this isn’t bad enough, Reformed people already have a bum rap for being arrogant and angry. This is not helping our cause.
If you understand God’s grace and His Sovereignty as these men say they do, then you don’t need to be right, and you don’t need to in control. The need to be right drives many of us to much sin.
I am not going to get into any more details here but I wanted to make an observation.
I’ve been in business for over 35 years and I can tell you that one thing you never do is discuss high-stakes disagreements in a public forum where the whole company can watch and shake their heads.
Even un-believers know that the best way to handle disagreements is to go directly to the person and try to work it out, in private.
Only if that fails, and only if it is important enough an issue would you then escalate to the next level of leadership to try to work things out. One thing you’d never do is stand up on a stage in front of 300,000+ employees and hurl insults at someone else.
Seems the un-believers have it up on us.
If you disagree with someone, take it to them. Practice Matthew 18 (even if it isn’t a “sin against you” but just a disagreement). And if you do respond in public, keep it professional. Don’t make a fool of yourself, because, even if you have multiple degrees from famous Universities you will still look foolish at worst, arrogant at best.
Question: Next time you have a major disagreement with a colleague or friend, how will you handle it?