The self-help industry is a lie. The gurus that dispense their advice on the 5 steps for this, the 7 steps for that are snake oil salesmen.

Part of the attraction of the self-help industry is the myth that we can control things. It’s a lie. Only God has ultimate control.

If self-help books (including and especially the Christian ones that fill most of the Christian bookstores) worked, there would be no more written – there wouldn’t have to be, because the one that worked would have solved all the problems.

Think about that a bit before you go out and buy the latest “how-to” book. 

Then save your money and relax. 

Don’t go buy those books – they will lie to you and make you feel like crap when you fail.

If you and I could be “fixed” God would have sent a book or CD, not his Son.

It is finished.

Jesus said: “Come unto me all you who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.” He meant it.

Now let me give you a quote from my friend Steve Brown:

“Almost everything we’ve been taught to do and think is not only wrong, it only makes it worse. Trying harder doesn’t work. You should know that by now. Becoming more religious will only magnify the problem. Being disciplined and making a commitment will, more often than not, cause you to “hit the rocks of reality”; and your efforts, in the end, will turn to dust. PRETENDING IS STUPID. At some point, you will slip up and be shamed. And reading the latest book on making an impact, changing your world, or being driven by a purpose (as good as those things can be) will probably drive you nuts. You will only feel guiltier. Motivational advice, biblical directives, challenges, and resolutions are dogs that simply won’t hunt anymore.” — Steve Brown


Question: Why do you think we are attracted to self-help? Now that you know the truth, what will you do?

Why Do They Insist on Cramming Law Down Our Throats?

To use the law to intimidate, shame, or drive fear into the hearts of other believers is to do great harm to the body of Christ. Yet we see it all the time – not only from pulpits, but we do it with each other, too.


Two reasons I can think of.

Because you have to really believe that you are free in order to allow others to be free. And in order to really believe that you are free you have to believe in radical grace. And in order to believe in radical grace, you have to believe you are a radical sinner. And therein is one of the problems. Most of us (including those in pulpit’s) don’t truly understand how bad our badness really is.

If our sin was minor, God would have sent a teaching CD or a book rather than His Son.

The other reason people insist on using the law as a weapon is summed up in one word: CONTROL. This needs no explanation except to say that contrary to what I said above, maybe some really do see how bad they are and so they use other’s sin against themselves to take the spotlight off their own.

Either way, as I have said elsewhere on this blog: don’t let them do that to you.

Questions: Who is manipulating you with the law? What do you intend to do about it?

The Drudgery of Life

Let’s face it life on this planet can sometimes be pure drudgery. Many of the things that we do each and every day are repeats of same or similar things that we did yesterday and the day before. Most of us really do live lives of quiet desperation. I don’t mean desperation in that there is no hope (more on that in a minute).

What I do mean is desperation in that we do things that many times don’t seem to add up as far as making any impact on the world we live in. After all, even famous people who do great big things see those things result from many little things that don’t seem to make much of a difference until they were some together and the end result is seen.

I work from home. Most of my day is spent on teleconferences in meetings. When I’m not doing that I’m monitoring the workload of my team or completing administrative work that my company seems to need in order to keep functioning. Most of the time the things that I mess with appear to have no real purpose. And most of the time I’m not given their purpose if they have one. All that usually happens is something is needed and it’s needed quickly by someone for some reason. And there is no time to really discuss why it’s needed because it’s already due by the time we get the assignment.

Most of my day’s are also spent eating sitting in my office, walking some on my treadmill desk, then going up stairs exhausted to eat dinner to lie down and read a bit and then fall asleep. The next day repeats itself. So it really does seem and feel like desperation.

I wish I could say that Jesus makes all the difference and that in spite of my life repeating over and over and over again (or so it seems) that I’m getting better and better in every way, every day. But that just isn’t the case.

Two Quotes from Martyn Lloyd-Jones

“We can put it this way–the man who has faith is the man who is no longer looking at himself and no longer looking to himself. He no longer looks at anything he once was. He does not look at what he is now. He does not even look at what he hopes to be as the result of his own efforts. He looks entirely to the Lord Jesus Christ and His finished work, and rests on that alone. He stops saying, ‘Ah yes, I used to commit terrible sins but now I have done this and that.’ If he goes on saying that, he has not got faith. Faith speaks in an entirely different manner and makes a man say, ‘Yes I have sinned grievously, I have lived a life of sin, yet I know that I am a child of God because I am not resting on any righteousness of my own; my righteousness is in Jesus Christ and God has put that to my account.’” ~ D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones

“There is no better test as to whether a man is really preaching the New Testament gospel of salvation than the fact that some people might misunderstand it and misinterpret it to mean that it really amounts to this–that because you are saved by grace alone it does not matter at all what you do, that you can go on sinning as much as you like because it will abound all the more to the glory of grace. That is a very good test of gospel preaching. If my preaching and presentation of the gospel of salvation does not expose it to that misunderstanding, then it is not the gospel.” ~ D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones


I’ve often said, “you don’t have to BE a new creation, you ARE a new creation”. Well, as well, you are not what you do, you are what Jesus has done for you.